Be both.

"What If We Really Love All Humanity?"

"What If We Really Love All Humanity?"
by Steve Roberts Fine Art

Jennifer Lynn Marie Sule - I Miss You.

Jennifer will always be Jenna to me.  We met at work and due to the fact that there were too many Jennifer's at the time, she introduced herself as Jenna.  She will always be My Jenna.  That's what we called each other: My Jenna or My Carli.  Those were our endearing nicknames for each other.

You can't begin to understand how difficult it is to relay how much someone is important to you when you love them so much...

To be honest, Jenna  and I couldn't stand each other when we first met.  She was The Ditz and I was The Bitch. That was the running joke between us.  But after getting to know each other, there is no other woman besides my mom whom I loved more. Jenna was the most kind-hearted, most intelligent woman I could ever come to know.  She taught me things about the devout religious (she was Catholic; I am Atheist).  Even now, it warms my heart regarding the seriously, heated arguments we had about the subject.  Yet she opened my eyes about why she believed. Her Catholicism comforted her.  It gave her peace and resolution.  It made her who she was.  And she was beautiful.  She was absolutely the most imperfect, beautiful person I have ever come to know.

I say imperfect and beautiful in the same sentence because they are the right words.  Jenna was not perfect; but she was as close to a perfect, beautiful, kind-hearted human being that I have ever had the grace of sharing this earth with.  I don't say that because she has passed.  I have always felt that way.

Jenna made my life worth something by gracing my life with hers.  I love you, little sister.  I miss you.


It's been over six months since I last posted to this blog.  It's been 49 days since my mother passed away.  Yet she keeps on teaching me.

Shortly after her death, my siblings and I found writings from our Mom that showed she suffered from depression.  We were completely unaware. She didn't confide in us; she didn't let on at all.  Selfishly, I was hurt that she didn't tell us.  If I (we) had known, maybe we could have helped her get through it.  Maybe we could have protected her.   

This morning, after reading something she wrote in 1992, I sobbed once again that she didn't let us know that she was hurting.  Then, it hit me.  I did the same thing to her for the majority of my life.  I didn't let her know what was going on throughout one of the most horrific situations of my life.  When it came to light earlier this year, I didn't understand why she was so hurt. 

She didn't know about it, I argued with her.  She didn't know because I didn't tell her.  How could she protect me from something she had absolutely zero knowledge?  She couldn't protect me.

She couldn't protect me.  I couldn't protect her.

My Mom!  She makes me laugh and cry to this day.  I know she was with me this morning when she helped me understand why she didn't tell me about her depression.  She was with me when I finally understood why she was upset about me not telling her about the horrific event.  All we want to do is make sure our loved ones are okay and protect them.  I get it now, Mom.  Sometimes days, weeks, months or years too late.  But I get it now.

If someone or something hurts you, tell someone.  No matter how painful it may be.  You may save your life.  You may save someone else's.  You may just find your heart has opened up.

Note:  My Mom passed away Wednesday, May 8, 2013 from acute COPD (Chronic Obstructive Pulmonary Disease). 

United We Stand, Divided We Fall

This is what I've been looking for.  We need to stop with the divisiveness and embrace our fellow Americans, because they are our neighbors, friends, family members, our loved ones, regardless of ideology.  We are all in this together.  We are stronger together than divided.

Kid Rock and Sean Penn:  Thank you.

Beauty in the World

Sloan Churman was born deaf. She had never heard her own voice until she was fitted with a specialized hearing implant. Her husband videotaped the moment. This is Sloan, hearing her own voice for the first time.

I don't know about you, but I think her laughter and her tears are absolutely beautiful.


For those of you who aren't aware of the meaning, NSFW means Not Safe For Work because it contains obscenities or other offensive material. On that note...

                                         The Best Blog Post of the Year:  Fuck You, 2010!

Thanks, Jezebel!  Someone had to say it.

Edit:   I have been blessed.  It's all that's going on in the world that's fucked up.  We all need a better 2011.  Here's to the New Year!

For All My Friends

Courtesy of Alphabet Photography:

Merry Christmas, Happy Hanukkah, Happy Kwanzaa, Feliz Navidad, Happy Festivus and any others I may have forgotten... Happy Holidays to all of you!

Need Your Help! RE: Companies Who Won't Hire the Unemployed

Dear Readers,

If you support the unemployed in their quest to find work, then I would like to ask for your help.  As many of you are already aware, there are employers out there who refuse to hire the unemployed or those unemployed longer than six months.  This is unacceptable, if we are going to move our country forward to better economic times.

I have compiled a list of Craigslist ads from around the country for companies who are not hiring the unemployed.  Many of them are blind ads, whereby they won't reveal their name.  If you have the background or qualifications they are looking for, I am asking that you contact them to find out who they are.

I do ask that you do not contact them to hassle them, only to find out their company name.  We will shame them later, with your help.

If you wish, I will happily credit you for finding the information.  If you want to remain anonymous, I will respect that wish as well.  You can reply in the comments below, email or give me a call through Google, on the right side of this page.  Below are the ads and contact info.

LVN $50 per hour + mileage (L.A./Orange County)

Date: 2010-10-03, 9:24AM PDT
Reply to:

PLEASE READ THIS ENTIRE POSTING—seeking a very intelligent Licensed Vocational Nurse for subcontracting position to meet clients at doctors' offices, accompany them through their appointment, and then type a report of the examination. Time at doctor’s office paid from 30 minutes before appointment time to conclusion of examination at $50 per hour. Travel reimbursed at $50 per hour for standard driving time (Mapquest time) from your residence to the doctor’s office and then back to your home PLUS 50 cents per mile reimbursement (Mapquest distance) from your residence to the doctor’s office and then back to your home. Reimbursement for report typing based on standard (length of work product) typing time at $50 per hour. Reimbursement for proofreading of typist’s transcription paid at standard rate of 3 minutes per page at $50 per hour. This position REQUIRES EXCEPTIONAL RELIABLITY.

Paid in-person training is provided before the first assignment. The work assignments for this position are communicated VIA PHONE and the business owner will call applicants to conduct an initial telephone interview—so please DO NOT RESPOND TO THIS POSTING IF YOU ARE NOT GOING TO BE ABLE TO ANSWER YOUR PHONE WHEN CALLED (you may wish to include in your email response any best dates/times you may be reached—messages will not be left, and this position needs to be filled immediately). Assignments are available Monday through Friday during daylight hours. Must have VERY GOOD English speaking and GRAMMATICALLY CORRECT report writing ability with strong typing skills. Must maintain dependable transportation, computer with internet access, printer and cellphone. Please do not submit a response to this posting that is not accompanied by a complete resume. This is a long-term position (NOT TEMPORARY)—Only individuals with stable current employment, who are seeking an opportunity for part-time supplemental income should apply—DO NOT APPLY IF YOU ARE UNEMPLOYED OR ABOUT TO CHANGE EMPLOYMENT. This position needs to be filled immediately—please do not apply now if you are not prepared to be interviewed immediately, be trained immediately if selected for the position, and then take assignments immediately following completion of training.

P/T Legal/Admin Assistant (Los Angeles)

Date: 2010-10-03, 11:51AM PDT
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Criminal Defense attorney with start-up practice that is getting busier. I need someone to handle office duties including filing, calendaring, billing, phone calls, and other admin work which may include helping set up a permanent office after the first of the year. The candidate must be highly organized with excellent written and verbal communication skills. Must also be OK with working remotely sometimes and at least two days a week from my home office in Hancock Park area.

Criminal Law experience preferred. If you worked for a criminal defense lawyer, prosecutor's office, or for the courts - please note that in the subject line of your I can put you on the top of my inbox)

Pay is $12 an hour to start. For the right person this is a growth position. For real.

Do NOT APPLY if you are a recent law school grad waiting for bar results or an unemployed/underemployed attorney hoping to take cases. I will not consider you for this position.

Ahhh.... Patrice & Associates rears their ugly head again.

Needed Casual Dining Manager (San antonio)

Date: 2010-09-02, 2:30PM CDT
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Searching for experienced restaurant manager for a high volume upscale casual dining restaurant located locally. Must be currently employed or recentley unemployed and not more than 3 jobs in the last ten years. Please send me your resume for immediate consiseration. At Patrice & Associates Hospitality Services we are the largest and most successful recruiting agency in the United States with over 600 job openings nationwide! If you want to get your resume in the hands of the corporate decision makers today and cut through the red tape then submit your resume now!
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Yeah, that's the end of their ad.  Pretty impressive, isn't it? 

Restaurant Managers (Fort Worth)

Date: 2010-10-05, 12:06PM CDT
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Come to work for one of America's Fastest Growing Quick Casual concepts!
No early mornings...
No Late nights...
No Drive Thru...

Fantastic Growth Potential...(as a brand this company will open 1500 units nationally in the next 2 years)
Excellent Quality of Life!!
Terrific bonus potential!!

All over the entire Fort Worth market, we are looking for experienced restaurant managers with FULL SERVICE or FAST CASUAL experience. Our concept combines a sleek, 100% fresh menu with "host of the party" leadership to keep us at the top of the "ZAGAT" Best of the Best list.
Our successful restaurant managers come from a background that includes a fresh kitchen production style, combined with strong controllable skills and huge leadership ability. (we place a high price on guest happiness) We look for folks who enjoy knowing their guests by first name and being the mayor of the town!

• NO more than 2 jobs in 3 years…
• Definite salaried restaurant management experience …
• Must be currently employed (or recently unemployed for good reason)…
• Must have a desire to move your career forward…

We have 12 units under construction right now...and we need strong leadership talent!!!!

Business to Business Sales (North Metro) Boulder, CO

Date: 2010-09-01, 8:54PM MDT
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Media Company is looking for Business to Business sales people. This is a commission only position. First years income could be between $40,000.00 and $60,000.00. We can teach you what you need if you have the desire to work.
Territory includes Boulder, Longmont and North Denver Metro.
Some of the services we provide are:
SEO (search engine optimization)
Web Sites
Promotional Material (pens, caps, etc.)
Printed Material (direct mail, Magazine type material and informational material.)

Requirements include:
Ability to work with little supervision, we do not believe in micro management.
Ability to Cold call new and existing accounts as well as prospect.
Work with several different personalities.
Must have reliable vehicle.
Must be computer literate. (Excel spread sheet)
Able to meet dead lines.

If you do not have self pride, self motivation, self worth please do not apply. We are not looking for the carrier unemployed.

Looking for Ambitious Sales Rep.  Detroit

Date: 2010-08-30, 11:19AM EDT
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Looking for people who want to supplement their current full-time income with a part-time opportunity.
Not necessarily looking for unemployed people at this time.
Growing need to educate families on how to make money, save money, and get out of debt.
Looking for sharp, ambitious individuals with great people skills who have the desire to help others.
Great advancement potential
Part-time potential extra $500-$1500/month 10-15 hrs/week
Possible transition to full-time in the future

If interested, email above address with contact info

Restuarant / Kitchen Manager (Plymouth Meeting, PA)

Date: 2010-09-19, 10:15AM EDT
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Immediate Opening!
Assistant Restaurant Manager
If it inspires and excites you to help build a growing, profitable restaurant business in which the highest standards of quality, value and hospitality are expressed; where respect, integrity and pride are a way of life; then we would love to hear from you.
FUN! FUN! FUN! - Great work environment! Not Fast Food!

Career Progression: AM to GM in about 2 years
Promotes from within

Competitive Wages - Attainable Bonus!
 Medical / Dental / Prescription Drug Plan
 Flex Care Benefits Option
 401(k) Retirement Plan
 Attire & Meal Allowances
 Two Weeks Paid Vacation to start

Candidate Criteria:
• Strong candidate capable of handling a $2M store.
• 2 years of salaried management experience in full service casual / family dining
• Must be employed in restaurants or recently unemployed (1 - 5 months out)
• No more than 2 jobs in 5 years, 3 in 9-10 years.
• Likes to have FUN at work!!!!

Not Just an Ordinary Job……..But an Extraordinary Career

Restaurant Managers-Quick Casual (Paramus)  New Jersey

Date: 2010-09-10, 8:36AM EDT
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► No Late Nights-Great Quality of Life-55 Hour Work Week
► General Managers are promoted from within and we are growing!
► Performance based bonuses and promotions
► Industry-leading compensation and benefits
► Medical, Dental & Vision Insurance
► Flexible Spending Account
► 401(k) Pension Plan
► Paid Vacation
► Bonus Plan
HERE’S WHAT WE NEED FROM YOU: ► 3yrs exp as salaried manager, preferably from fast casual or full service
► P&L skills, budgeting, and computer skills
► Excellent team leadership and customer skills are a must for all candidates-you Should truly enjoy promoting guest satisfaction
► Employed or recently unemployed
► No more than 2 jobs in 5 years, 3 in 10
If you meet these qualifications, please email your resume attn: Cathy!

Note:  The ad below is too damn long so I've shortened it; if you want a list of all their Do's and Don'ts, go here.  For such exacting standards, you'd think they would hire a staffing company that could write a proper ad.

Attention- $110,000/ yr - Senior Tax Manager-Send Resume Now (Newark, NJ)

Date: 2010-09-20, 6:36AM EDT
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2. * ** EMPLOYMENT STATUS ***: Do NOT submit resume if you are Currently UNEMPLOYED or SEL-EMPLOYED as they will NOT be considered. ONLY accepting passive candidates. 
Title: Senior Tax Manager
Salary: $110k - $140k (DOE)
Company: Top 20 CPA Firm
Location: Newark, NJ
Job Type: Full time


* Bachelors degree in accounting.
* Advanced degree in Taxation or J.D. or a CPA License.
* Bachelors degree and a CPA license is required or an MS in taxation.

* Minimum of 6 Years in a Public Accounting environment.
* Experience in using tax preparation software.

* Computer Literacy, including strong excel skills.
* Ability to work within a team environment.
* Excellent organizational skills and the ability to manage multiple projects.
* Excellent written and verbal communication skills.

* Tax Related Responsibilities:
* Research and consulting on complex tax matters.
* Review of tax returns.
* Communication with clients and maintenance of client relationships.
* Management, development, training and mentoring of staff and seniors.
* Tax planning with a wide variety of clients.

* Oversee, train, and develop staff as well as provide informal and formal feedback regarding their performance.
* Review and maintain budgets.
* Keep partners updated about the status of the engagement.
* Maintain client relations.
* Answer various questions from staff that is working on engagements.
* Supervise client billing.
* Visit potential client sites for business proposals.

The ideal Candidate:
5 - 7 yrs of experience

For Consideration you must act NOW !
Send resume today to the following below

Excellent Advancement Opportunity (Danville) North Carolina

Date: 2010-10-07, 8:24AM EDT
Reply to:

Excellent Advancement Opportunity

We bring on big talent and develop them into our future Proprietors - You'll be responsible for ensuring that guests enjoy a pleasurable dining experience. Key responsibilities include guest interaction, management of operating standards for service, facility and equipment in the restaurant, while ensuring staffing and training of the service team. If you have experience in sales volume of at least $2 Million and have great knowledge of restaurant operations we would love to talk to you!

• Great Pay & Bonus
• Medical / Dental Insurance
• 401k
• Disability Insurance
• 2 weeks vacation

Preferred Candidate Criteria:
• Must be employed in restaurants or recently unemployed (1-4) months out
• No more than 2 jobs in 5 years, 3 in 9-10 years.
• High Volume Experience is a big plus
• 3yrs of mgmt in full service/casual dining.
• Valid driver's license.
• High school education

There are several openings locally. Please submit your resume today for consideration! 

That's it... for now.  If you find other companies out there who won't hire the unemployed or long term (6 months or longer) unemployed, please let me know.

Thanks in advance for your help!
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